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When it’s over, that’s the time I’ll fall in love again

Sugar Ray

I was having dinner with kid 2 tonight, as we do every Tuesday night. X2 texts me shortly before meeting me for the exchange to tell me that her on-again, off-again, on-again, off-again, on-again off-again boyfriend is coming with her. I was unmoved. It’s a good feeling. I am neither angry nor happy about it. I feel nothing. I’m even reluctant to utter the phrase “I’m over her”. I feel like people who say things like “I’m over it “or “I’m over them “are not our never actually over the thing in question. It’s more a case of them trying to convince themselves that they’re over whatever “it/them” is.

And that’s when I heard that Sugar Ray song “When it’s over”. At that moment, it occurred to me, as it had when I talked to Lomax yesterday, that I’m really over her. I think I actually mean it this time.

Lead singer Mark McGrath may have been singing those lyrics with irony. However, tonight I was hearing them with a sense of conviction: “when it’s over, that’s the time I fall in love again“ It’s not that I’m going to fall in love with X2 again. On the contrary, I think, at long last, I’m ready to open my heart up to another person again, and, fall in love again…

But that stupid song came on while I was in the bathroom at McDonald’s, and I had an epiphany. I’ve been in a handful of relationships over the last few years where quite frankly, the woman question has had stronger feelings for me than I have for her. Maybe I will still get hung up on X2 again at some point. Maybe I really was coming to borrow that overused expression “emotionally unavailable“. I think that’s just because I wasn’t ready to open myself up again.

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