Rebuilding Rob

During the first season of Star Trek: Picard, there is an episode called “Absolute Candor”. In it, Picard encounters a group of Romulan nuns who practice absolute candor – which is essentially blunt, sometimes brutal honesty with no filter between thought an word. While I didn’t learn this lesson from Picard, the title applies.

Don’t worry. It will all make sense.

I’ve always been something of a late-bloomer – socially, professionally and emotionally. There are several lessons I wish I had learned earlier in life. This may be the most important lesson I’ve learned as it covers many facets of life.

No matter how good of a person you are, someone is going to hate you.

When I was in high school, I literally had a guy tell me that he hated me because I get along with basically everyone. The point is that no matter how much you do, it’s never going to be good enough for everybody. People will always find fault with you – even if they have to make stuff up; even if they choose to be negative for the lack of negativity you exude. Imagine how pathetic your existence must be if you hate somebody because they’re easy to get along with. Needless to say. I’ve never seen or heard from this clown again.

Not matter how good you are at something, someone will always be there to tell you that you suck

This is a lesson I learned as a teacher; but it holds true to any profession, any hobby, or any skill. Teaching is a rather unique profession in that your performance is a valuated by both Jordan knowledge of your content, as well as your students’ success.

Teachers who are academically brilliant, but couldn’t teach to a class if their life depended on it, because they have the interpersonal skills of a mashed potato. Conversely, but some wonderful human being is the most professional, who couldn’t teach a lick because they don’t know their content.

As a teacher, I’ve gotten both high and low evaluation scores. Some of those were a reflection of where it was at in my life. Others scores a reflection of the lack of rapport with my students. But one thing I’ve always known is my contact area.

I bring this up because I’ve had people tell me, professionally, that I suck. However, have a new mayor how discouraged I can, I know that this is true. I know that I know my stuff. And I also know that I’m a great listener and a great conversationalist. furthermore, I bring a great passion to the things that I teach. If you tell me “I didn’t really like what we were reading. But I saw how excited you were about it, so I decided to give it a try. And it was pretty good.“

At the end of the day, after all of the cake and watermelon, you have to be true to yourself. Don’t lie to yourself. No filters. No bullshit. Practice absolute candor with yourself.

After all, it was one of my favorite authors who said “this above all: to thine own self be true”

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