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Ruminations on what would’ve been my opal anniversary…

Twenty-four years ago today, I married X1.

I don’t bring it up today to lament, our mourn my marriage. But like 9/11 is for many Americans, I look at today as a day to reflect. And no, I’m not comparing my marriage to the events of September 11, 2001.

I think it really started hitting me two days ago/ which was a Saturday. I was married on a Saturday and the weather this past Saturday was unseasonably warm, as it was on my wedding day.

X1 and I were texting last night – trying to coordinate ordering senior year stuff for Kid 1. It’s weird because my marriage – and X1 for that matter – seem like a lifetime ago. We still know each other, obviously. That is to say that we know who each other is at our core. But neither of us really know anything about what each other has experienced in the last 12 years.

Maybe the stuff with kid one getting ready to graduate his especially Pinion right now. Who are we leaving high school; phase which money people consider to be the time that a young person and childhood and adulthood. Now granted, kid 1 will always be mine and X1’s son. The fact that he’s an adult will never change that. We will always have that connection. But, the truth is there will be significantly less contact between her and I going forward.

That a person can play such a crucial role in your life one day, only to receive a lateral promotion to “stranger“ will never cease to amaze me.

Jesus, is love even real? Are humans even meant to settle down with one partner forever? 

Is today even my wedding anniversary anymore? I don’t know how that really works. I’m certainly not asking because I want to celebrate today or anything. But it is still the anniversary of the day I got married, even though I’m no longer married.

Of course, thinking back to where I was doing 24 years ago today and thinking about how far I have, – or have not come – in the time since also makes me wonder about where I will be 24 years from now.

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