Rebuilding Rob

Later this week, I’m going to be traveling to Wisconsin along with Kid 1 and Kid 2. As I had mentioned in an earlier post, Kid 1 was offered a nearly-full ride to the University of Wisconsin. We’ll be checking out the school later this week. Hopefully, Kid 1 will making an official decision to attend school in Wisconsin for the fall. At this point, short of another school, offering him a true full ride, I think he will be at Wisconsin come fall.

This is a very bittersweet time for me. While I am beaming with pride at Kid 1’s accomplishments, I’m also realizing that his childhood is coming to an end. A childhood, mind you, that I was not nearly as involved in as I would like to have been.

At Wisconsin, Kid 1 will be closer to me than ever. I think that he and I have always has a very good dynamic. As he has gotten older, he has seen things in his mother, much the same way that any young person sees qualities in their parents that they don’t necessarily like.

But more than that, I think kid 1 is starting to understand me a little bit better as he is becoming a young man himself now. I can’t speak for girls as they become women, but I think that happens a lot with young men. As we get older, we start to understand our father’s and where they’re coming from. I know that was the case with me and my dad.

Maybe this is because mothers are traditionally, more nurturing, and take on that caregiver role. This is usually the case; but obviously it’s not an absolute. I think a lot of nuclear family dynamics, children are a little bit more distant from their father than they are from their mother. But I do believe that is They get older, boys in particular, they start to understand their father’s a lot better.

This is not to say that kid one and I are “friends“ but I think he understands a little bit more about me now, and why his mother and I divorced.

At least that’s what I’m telling myself as we’re moving into the future.

If anything, I’m excited about the idea of having kid 1 closer to me than ever. I know it’s not gonna be like it was when he was a child, but I’m very excited about the future for him and for both of us.

I was talking to Betty last night and I realized that kid 1 graduates from high school in just a little under seven weeks. The end really is in sight.

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