The 100% Policy: Why I Am My Own Twin Flame (And My Own Soulmate)

As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today

Do you believe in romantic soul mates?

No. I don’t believe in romantic soulmates, although I once did. I don’t want to sound like I’m spewing sour grapes, either, just because I’m single. I’ve simply come to a different realization through my own “rebuilding” process.

The Myth of the “Missing Piece”

I think about this topic a lot, especially since “twin flames” is becoming such a popular term. We often use these words interchangeably, but they represent two very different—and somewhat exhausting—ideals.

As best as I can tell, a soulmate is a “kindred spirit”—someone who offers deep comfort and accepts you as you are. On the other hand, the twin flame is a much more intense concept. It’s the idea of one soul split into two bodies, where the other person acts as a “mirror” to reflect your deepest insecurities and “unlock” parts of you that were hidden. It’s an analogy like the opening of an egg—the second half “brings out” a part of you that was locked away.

If I had to choose, I’d lean toward the soulmate. The “twin flame” concept suggests we are walking around as half-people, unfinished and incomplete. That is a depressing way to view life. For years, I worried I had to be with someone to be whole. But being single these past few years has been a revelation. It’s given me the chance to enjoy the peace of solitude and, honestly, to rediscover who the hell I am.

Cracking My Own Shell

In fact, I’ve realized that in past relationships, I experienced the opposite of the “twin flame” effect. Instead of being “unlocked,” I ended up blocking away key parts of my personality. Being on my own has allowed me to do that “mirror work” myself.

In a weird way, I have become my own twin flame and my own soulmate. I am the one who challenged myself to grow, and I am the one who provides the peace I used to look for in others. I did the hard work of unlocking my own shell, and I’ve found a partner in myself that finally offers some stability.

Redefining the Foundation

This perspective has taught me to differentiate between love and marriage. Marriage is often treated as a state institution or a religious rite, but neither necessarily defines love. I’ve seen people married for decades who hate each other, and unmarried couples who are the most passionate people I know.

I’m having a great time with Veronica, and she’s the closest I’ve ever felt to being “whole” with another person. But I’m also transparent with myself: I value the 100% Policy too much to sacrifice my solitude for a “permanent” role that might force me to hide parts of myself again.

I’ve done the work. If things ended tomorrow, I wouldn’t have to rebuild my entire life from scratch—because this time, the foundation is me.

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Today’s post is inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt. While I’ve taken the topic in my own direction for the Road to 1,000 Days, you can find more responses to today’s prompt HERE .

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