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My 15 most influential movies

One of The Auteur’s Facebook friends challenged another friend to list their 15 most influential movies.  I’m posting about this on my alter-ego Facebook page, but I decided to take the opportunity to expand on said list.  Challenge accepted.  So here are my 15 most influential movies…

Fight Club – the great existentialist story of our time.  A real man’s-man’s movie.  This movie and book’s influence on me is evident by clicking here.

Star Wars – my first true movie-love.  Star Wars taught me how to dream.

Rocky (Any of them, or all of them) – The ultimate underdog story of our time.  Any, or all of the Rocky movies will suffice.

The Matrix (the first one only) – In addition to being the most influential sci-fi movie of the last 25 years, this movie reminds me that the only limits are one’s imagination.  There is no spoon, indeed…

Napoleon Dynamite – another underdog story.  A surprisingly powerful story about love, family, friendships and perseverance.

Dead Poet’s Society – The movie that really made me fall in love with English Literature and made me want to be a teacher.

Silver Linings Playbook – A story about a less-than-perfect guy trying to rebuild his life.  ‘Nuff said.

The Lord of the Rings Trilogy – Before the Lord of the Rings Trilogy, no other movie had done as good of a job of transporting me to another world since Star Wars.  “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”

Swingers – another great guy movie.  This one taught me that sometimes you are are money, even if you don’t know it.

Singles – A movie that captured a great moment in time:  the Seattle musical movement of the early 1990s and a series of great inter-connected love stories.

Pulp Fiction – By far, the most influential American movie, of any genre, of the last 30 years.  Timeless and yet so relevant.

Finding Nemo – A modern day version of The Odyssey, and a great father-son story about a father who takes on an a nearly-impossible task of finding his son; and becomes a man along the way.   I don’t care what anyone says, Finding Nemo is Marlin’s story.  Period.

Fast Times at Ridgemont High – another movie that really capture a moment in time for me.  It follows the real calendar by which young Americans live…the academic school-year calendar.

Field of Dreams – A man who go to any lengths to answer his inner calling.  A true father and son story, and it revolves around baseball.

Superman: The Movie – Yes, I’m a Batman guy, but this is still, the stick by which all other superhero movies are measured.

There’s my 15.  Thoughts…?

jealous again…for the first time

This entry was originally started on April 23, 2013

I unwittingly became something of a Facebook stalker today.  the Auteur has spent the day at her college putting the final touches on a short movie for one of her video classes (ahh…THERE’S the origin of her code name…)

Anyway, she’s got a FB friend (who she apparently had a class with a year or so ago) whom i shall refer to as TP. I remember seeing TP post comments on some of The Auteur’s Facebook updates.  At first, I didn’t think much of it: The Auteur and I had just met, we hadn’t really tread the exclusivity question up to that point. Then I remember seeing an exchange between them on the 24th that set me off.  After seeing that one, I decided to do some “virtual scrapbooking” on her Facebook timeline.  You’ll see said exchanges below, book-ended by my comments on them.  Judge for yourself…

This first one is in reference to the official announcement that Arrested Development would resume production, with new episodes airing exclusively on Netflix.

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Doesn’t sound so bad, alone.  Looking back though, I was pissed because the last comment was made ON MY BIRTHDAY. I didn’t see The Auteur on my birthday because it fell on a Wednesday this year.

This next exchange is in reference to a selfie that The Auteur took, sporting a t-shirt from her favorite show, The Walking Dead.  I removed the photo as to protect The Auteur’s identity.  Incidentally, T, J and G are some of her other FB friends.

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“You look incredbile”??  Really?  The comment by G struck me as the kind of compliment one friend would give to another:  a little bit over-the top and definitely not the kind of thing a guy would actually say to a woman he was sexually attracted to.  TP sounds like he’s fishing for some feedback here. Keep reading, it gets better…

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Okay, this dude is in the film program with her – or was last year anyway.  I assume he does realize that this is a 4 minute movie.  By The Auteur’s own admission, the people in her program are socially awkward, at best.  For that reason, I feel that I can related to this guy on some levels, and these are the kinds of things I would say if I wanted to get with this girl, yet was too scared to ask her out.  He’s looking, albeit desperately, for an “in”

This next one is where it starts to get a little creepy, especially considering what followed afterward. this was the day after they finished filimng; so she was spending the next day editing.   Notice I started to get a little more comfortable with MS Paint in this one…

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This was the straw that broke the camel’s back.  When I saw this, I finally confronted her about it and asked “What’s going on?”  It was also at this point that I went back and found the 3 previous posts.  When I brought it up, she said that this exchange creeped her out…only to deny having said that a few days later.

A few days after I confronted her with all of this, she posted her completed movie on her website without announcing it or sharing it on Facebook. She did this so that the 2 actors in it could watch it.  Apparently, TP was trolling her website, saw it and posted a link to it.  she claimed this pissed her off, because she felt it was her place to decide whether or not this was to be shared with others ( and yes, I do recognize the irony of that statement considering that I’m posting all of this shit here).

She hasn’t de-friended the guy. I wouldn’t go as far as to say that she’s leading him on; but she hasn’t cut him off at the pass yet either.  I think what pisses me off most is that I blew off  5 or 6 potentials to date The Auteur exclusively…and this is how she reacts to a guy who is clearly interested in her.

Earlier today, he “liked” something that she posted. This only re-ignited the anger in me.  That, and the fact that she informed me that she has already made plans with 2 of her girlfriends for her birthday. I supposed I could do the preemptive strike and take her out the night before her birthday, but still…

This is new for me.  I’m not normally one to get jealous.  I never questioned or suspected the STBX of any cheating or potential cheating. Maybe that’s why I’m reacting like this now:  I completely trusted the STBX and today we’re separated.

So, what is the consensus here?  Is this just some guy who won’t take no for an answer?  Is The Auteur leading him on?  Is it just me?  Can The Auteur really be this naive to this guys advances?

Double shot

Once again, I have managed to go out twice in the same weekend.

Friday night was the social club‘s happy hour.  SHG was there; Red was not which made for some pretty good conversation fodder. We talked a couple times, but she had 2 guys hovering over her the entire night.  Phred recommend I let it go; citing that one the guys was “nice”.   I did for the most part.  The other two guys were a major detractor for me.  Maybe it’s cowardice; maybe it’s arrogance, but i refuse to stand there and compete with two other guys for the attention of ANY woman. (Yes, this would have also been true of the STBX had any other guys been into her the day we met.)  I will not be anyone’s Mr. Maybe.  I am going to be Mr. Right, or at least Mr. Right Now.

We usually leave Rochester a little early and get some drinks closer to home.  Friday night was no exception. Before I left, I asked SHG if i could call or Facebook her.   She said sure, so I sent a friend request the next day.  I haven’t gotten a response yet.
Maybe she’s playing the game. Or maybe she’s not interested.  In any case, I gotta move on. The next time, I’ll ask for a number and take my chances.

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All of this and nothing

On Monday morning, I got an e-mail from my attorney, stating that the STBX was served on Friday night. It was anti-climactic to say the least. For all of my thoughts leading up to it happening – the screaming match I imagined, the idle threats for which I mentally prepared myself, the thinly veiled Facebook postings alluding to our relationship – there was no reaction from her.  Nothing.   I’m not complaining. I’m just surprised.

Equally surprising have been my feelings about it. I thought I would be excited about it. I thought it would feel empowering.  I thought I would be gloating.  Instead, I feel none of that. When I saw it, it was just another e-mail.One of my favorite sayings is “the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference”.  Maybe I’m just indifferent to the whole thing at this point.  For some time, I’ve been telling myself, and anyone who would listen, that I just want to move forward.  I guess I actually meant it.

Maybe she didn’t actually get the letter yet. Maybe she’s keeping quiet to mess with me. The one constant in her personality has been her inability to think before opening her mouth to speak. Maybe getting served knocked her off of her high horse.

Okay, I REALLY doubt that last line.

…and valleys

I have good days and I have bad days.  On those days in-the-middle, i have good times and i have bad times.

Earlier tonight was one of those bad times.  As time drags on, i’m having a harder time dealing with not seeing my son.  I occurred to me earlier tonight that this – living w/ my parents, scraping to get by, going back to school – this is my life now.  It’s not a vacation; it is the new normal.  And it sucks.

Today is September 11 and by and large, I’ve done a pretty good of avoiding all of the 9/11 TV specials.  This is especially interesting since I’ve been home all day.  I may be that 9/11 is finally becoming just another day in history for most of us. In my opinion, that’s a good thing.  it suggests a return to normalcy for the country at large.

I finally went through the separation document the STBX had written up and put my remarks into a Word document for my lawyer to look at. I hope to finally send that to him tomorrow.

Yesterday, I started something I should have done 22 years ago.  Inspired by my high school reunion, I decided to finally label photos from my trip to France all those years ago.  Whatever it takes, I guess.

The story so far…

When I wasn’t taking my impending separation well, my soon-to-be-ex-wife suggested that I start writing again.

Be careful what you wish for…

I’m 38 and the father of the greatest five-year old boy in the world.  Twenty-nine days ago  I moved out my house, leaving my son and my-soon-to-be-ex-wife (hereafter referred to as the STBX)  five states away and back in with my parents.  It was (and is) the only option I had (and have) available at the moment.

Thomas Wolfe was right when he said “you can’t go home again“.   I thought I’d be excited top be back in familiar surroundings, but it isn’t the same place anymore. So much of the area has built up in the last eight years, and so much of it was abandoned when the economy sank a few years back.  I used to know every single family who lived on my block.  Now I hardly recognize any of the houses, let alone the people who now live in them. A very bizarre sensation, but one I should have expected.

My immediate family has been great.  God bless ’em.  They have been the very model of unconditional love.  My brother and my Dad helped me pack my things and move back here.  My mother, unable to unable to make the trip herself, was here to welcome me with open arms when we got back.  My sister has proven once again to be a great friend, confidante and drinking partner.

A SIDE NOTE:  No matter how old you are, your parents will always treat you like you’re eight years old. At least the really good ones will.   Sure, it’s annoying at times but they mean well. Taking care of you is the mission with which they were charged when you were born.  It’s just in their DNA.

Getting back to me:  I think I’m adjusting to my new-old life fairly well. At times, I feel a little lost.  I’m currently not working, but my plan is to get back into school this fall to finish my Master’s degree.  I’ll probably have to move to wherever I can find a job, but ideally I’d like to be relatively close to my son.  I have no intention of becoming a “weekend and holiday dad”.  To her credit, my STBX and I have thus far remained “a united front” on all things pertaining to our son.

On a different topic:  my 20 year high school reunion is coming up.  I did not attend either my 5 or 10 year reunions but I’m excited about this one.  I did not particularly  enjoy my high school years, I’m curious to see some of my old classmates again. I blame Facebook for this change of heart.  When I got on there, I started friending people whom I went to school with but never talked to.  Social media really has changed our world.

ANOTHER SIDE NOTE: Anyone who tells you that high school is the best time of your life has never been to college.

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