Solving the Scourge of the Short-haired Girl: A Modern Icarus? idolatry? or sabotage?

This is how I felt after making "the call"
This is how I felt after making “the call”

I’ts been a little more than 24 hours and I haven’t heard from SHG.

It ain’t gonna happen.

I really didn’t know how this was gonna go either way. I could foresee her both calling me back and not calling me back. So I really didn’t know what to expect.  I’ve often lived my life by the expression: “shoot for the moon. If you miss, you’ll end up among the stars.” But I’m failing to see the stars in this little scenario.

After Happy Hour on Friday night,  I honestly thought I had a real shot with her.  We hung out together almost the entire time at the bar.  I gave her multiple opportunities to ditch me, and she didn’t.  The only time I bought her drinks was during the $2 special, so it’s not as if she was just milking me for free booze.

Maybe I am a modern-day Icarus; flying on false wings, ignoring the wisdom of others and flying to close to the Sun. The ultimate lesson in humility. But the fact is, I’ve been shot down before. I’ve been dissed a lot earlier in the process before this. And those times haven’t even phased me.  Why is this one bothering me so? I guess I feel like this scenario would make more sense if she shot me down right away or seized an opportunity to ditch me. The Oakland University chicks have always been my Achilles’  heel.  Why should this one be any different?  Was this one really out of my league?  I like to think not.

This reminds me a lot of January's Happy Hour
This reminds me a lot of January’s Happy Hour

Perhaps I put her on too much of a pedestal.  She is often the best looking girl in the bar during the Social club Happy Hours and Friday night, I let her command far too much of my attention.  I mean, I blew off 3, possibly 4, other women for her on Friday.  I won’t make that mistake again.  Perhaps genuine feelings need to take a back seat to the laws of supply and demand.  There was a limited supply of Rob on Friday night and I took myself right off the market by bearing down on SHG.  Despite how things may appear, I don’t just got after the hottest woman in any social situation I enter into.  Putting all my bets on SHG may have been risky, but I really thought I had a decent shot with her.

It could be because of my impending separation.  We only had a couple of meaningful conversations but I was amazed at how much she remembered about me.  The fact is, my divorce isn’t final until July 1, so that may have scared her off.  The STBX and I had 15 years together, and our Son.  That’s a lot of baggage to be lugging around.  Perhaps far more than i even even thought about. Maybe.

I can't stand it // I know you planned it // I'm gonna set it straight, this Watergate
I can’t stand it // I know you planned it // I’m gonna set it straight, this Watergate

An equally likely reason for all of this is straight-up sabotage. As mentioned earlier, I strongly suspect Steeler has meddled in some of Sis’ would-be-relationships before; and I did see him talking t0 SHG before we left.  I met SHG through him, so it would make sense if he was interested in either her or her friend Red.  Furthermore, Steeler has also gone out of his way to persuade me to go after either Ivy or the Yenta, which I  blogged about previously here.

I’ve seen Steeler in action with his “group” and he is definitely the Alpha Male.  That’s not to say that he is the smartest/best looking, but he is definitely the ring-leader of his clique.  Back in my day, I was definitely the Alpha Male of the Samurai.  I don’t think Steeler is used to hanging with anyone who is as outgoing (or even more outgoing) as he is.

I have a feeling I have not seen or heard the last of SHG.  Most likely, i’ll see her again at the next happy hour, but I’m not waiting on baited breath as I did before.


  1. Are you using an online site yet? This is the perfect example of why I have to keep multiple women in play. Things like this don’t bother me as bad if I have other distractions. I have a situation very similar to this with my friend’s cousin that is “like a sister” to him. We would be a perfect match, but somebody is telling her something that disturbs her and it is screwing up my chances. I honestly thing it is the fact I am separated and not divorced.

    Fake it until you make it!


  2. The Yenta and Short-Hair Girl are two different women. I’ve had 3 or 4 people tell me that The Yenta is interested in me – but I’ve gotten no indications of it from her. As a guy, i realized that i’m ignorant of most of the hints that women drop on men, but I just ain’t seein’ it – unless she’s the Greatest Player of All Time and I doubt that.

    But there was a band playing at a local bar Saturday night that she really likes. I assumed other people were also going – as is her usual MO – and I bailed on the show.

    I”m already writing a character analysis post about her in my head…stay tuned.


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