I don’t ever agree with any generalizations and frankly, I don’t agree with the majority of the reasons in this article. The first reason could not be further from the truth in my case. On the contrary, I feel that I actually regained my identity after my separation/divorce. The second reason – about a man’s parental instinct being challenged – is absolutely true. As for the third reason – not being allowed to grieve properly – again is another generalization based on how men are expected to behave or supposed to behave – and did not apply to me.
3 Reasons Divorce Is Harder On Men Than Women.
Great stuff though I have a different perspective. The first I do agree with but mostly because my ex and her mother are unhealthily co-dependent, it’s something they tried to drum into me too. I was made to feel my views were unimportant so my loss of identity happened way before that. If anything, the separation helped me start to find it again.
Second one has no meaning for me as I’m not a parent.
The third one is a crass generalisation but sadly, it rings true for many men even if it does not appy to you or to me. The social pressures and emotional expectations put on men to “man up”, “grow a set” and “be a man” by other men, by women and by society is dangerous to male mental health.
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