Rebuilding Rob

My quick answer to this is to say that “I would be the starting center fielder for the Tigers”. Or “I would be ridiculously successful rock star”.

But the reality is, if I knew I would not fail, I would try to be a professional writer – presumably doing something with this blog, or writing a novel.

I want people to know my story. I don’t need to be rich. I would want people to know that I was a guy who went through some stuff . But most of all, I would hope that I could impart some wisdom, advice or even just support to somebody whose going through divorce and getting to rediscover themselves – particularly other dads.

That’s what I was looking for – and could’ve used – when I started this blog. At the time 90-95% of what I saw online was women’s experiences with divorce. And I think women need that kind of support too. But men are conditioned – by society, by our families, by our peers and by the media – to “suck it up. Be a man. Don’t talk about. And when you’re heart explodes, we’ll all act surprised”. I just don’t roll like that. I need to talk things; or at least, hear that I’m not alone.

This has been my passion project for a long time. I’ve just never known how to pursue it. I did, for a time, contemplate going to law school to work in family law. That was almost my Batman moment.

In The Last Jedi, Yoda said: “The best teacher, failure is”. Poor sentence structure aside, herein lies the problem with these fantasy scenarios. If this was possible, how would I ever improve if I could become this cool version of Dr. Phil and not be guaranteed success? I would never fail, so I would never have any mistakes to learn from. I would plateau at the moment I achieved my success.

• What is something you would attempt I’d you were guaranteed not to fail?
• Would you even want that level of success without some failure or adversity to overcome?

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