Rebuilding Rob

As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today

You run into a friend 3 years from now. When asked how you are doing, you say, “this has been the best 3 years of my life”. What happened in those 3 years?

I like to think that in the last 3 years, I’ve undergone a great deal of growth, understanding, reflection and change. In fact, the only way for me to describe the level of peace and happiness I’ve found is to say that I didn’t even realize how chaotic

A job 20 years in the making

I was able to get a teaching position in the school district that i not only graduated from, but one that I have been trying to get into l since I started my teaching career. So, yes in a sense I am happier now, professional ally, than I was 3 years ago.

Becoming happily single

As far as personal relationships go, I’ve been in and out of a few relationships ships. While I’m. It seeing anyone exclusively at the moment, I’m happier now in this area than I have ever been.

Whitney Houston was right: “learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”. Sure it’s a corny song lyric, but it is true. I used to hear people say things all the time like “you have to be happy being alone before you can be happy being in a relationship”. Three years ago, I didn’t know what that meant.

Hell, 3 years ago, I was still picking up the pieces of my relationship with X2. It wasn’t sadness over losing her; rather, it was trying to figure out what I couldn’t move on. It took me a long time to figure out that I was putting too much stock in the idea of just being in a relationship. At that point, it wasn’t even about her anymore.

I don’t know how it hit me. I don’t know if anybody can ever actually explain the thought process that occurs when one has a moment of revelation; clarity. Once that happened, things made sense.

Will I ever get married again? If you’re asking that right now, my answer is no. I don’t even feel sad saying or thinking that anymore.

Will I ever enter into another exclusive long-term relationship again? Again, right now, my answer would have to be no. I don’t see it on the horizon. But that’s not to say that it never will happen. Or that I’m not open to the idea of it happening. Still love meeting women, and dating them. I enjoy the challenge of the whole courting process. but I don’t need a relationship to be happy. And that is probably the greatest breakthrough of all in the last three years.

Rediscovering fun

I’ve started doing things for myself again. I don’t mean just being more independent. I mean that to you. But I’m talking about the idea of doing something, for fun, because I want to deal it. Not because somebody else wants to do it. And certainly not because I want to go through the motions and make somebody else think that I’m having fun doing what they want to do.

My best, and probably really my only, example of this right now is traveling to different cities around America to attend a major and minor-league baseball games. I know, that sounds corny to some people. But for me, at this moment, it’s still the idea of simply traveling – sometimes alone – usually with kid 2. So far, I’ve made it to four other Major League ballparks (besides my home park) and well as a half-dozen Minor League Ballparks. And I’m just getting started. This summer I would like to take in a three-city MLB road trip. I’ve been talking about it all winter. Now it’s time to make it happen.

The craziest part of all this is that I didn’t sit down one day and decide “THIS is where I want to be in 3 years”. it all just fell into place in its own. It’s important to have goals and plans in life; but sometimes life puts you where you need to be – mentally if not physically.

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