Rebuilding Rob

While I was scrolling on TikTok yesterday, I came across “the last meeting theory”. I think that I’ve heard something similar to it before, but I went ahead and did a Google search for it and came across this article that does a really good job of summing up the theory.

In the event that you didn’t bother clicking on the article, or in the event that you’re just captivated by my words, the last meeting theory basically states that the universe has a way of you removing people from our lives once a lesson is learned; thus, the universe returns to its proper balance. People who have fulfilled their role in your life, or when you’ve learned the lesson that you were supposed to learn from that particular person leaves your life, you don’t see them again. You don’t have contact with them again. It doesn’t matter if they live 1000 miles away or five minutes from you, the universe simply removes them from your day-to-day life.

As I perused this article, the first person that came to my mind was Jessica. I still think about her sometimes, even though we broke up nearly 2 1/2 years ago. her and I don’t live terribly far from each other. In fact, she’s probably not more than 10 minutes away from the assisted living facility that Mother is currently at.

We still follow each other on Instagram, and I believe we are still friends on Facebook, I no longer follow her there.

It’s still strange to me. For someone who has suggested we be “friends with benefits” to just completely fall off my radar. But the truth is, I broke up with her. I dumped her. I guess in that moment, I really believed we might be those kind of people who actually remain friends after a break up.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret the break up. There was another post I saw on social media where a guy was talking about the fact that you can love someone and know that they absolutely are not right for you. Maybe that’s how I feel about Jessica. I mean, I don’t think that I love her, but I am absolutely certain that she was not right for me.

I guess that’s what makes up so hard. There’s still feelings there, usually. And maybe that was that. They trip to Florida was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship. Maybe just was the end of our journey. Because the truth is, I did learn a lot from her. I learned exactly what I was not going to settle for in a relationship. And, as I’ve said in other post about her, this was really the first time that I’ve been the one completely and totally break up with the other person.

I’ve been in relationships where things were on the rocks, and it almost was a mutual decision to break up. I’ve even had some half assed breaks on my part. But this was really the first time I put my foot down and just said “I’m not doing this anymore“. The last meeting tells me that that was a lesson for me to learn from Jessica. It’s kind of sad that the theory also states that we probably never will be in each other’s lives again.

I have a couple occasions shot her a message on Facebook or Instagram when I see something that I think would interest her. Recently, I saw a posting about “smash: the musical“. For those of you who are unfamiliar, Smash was a short-lived, one season series on NBC, which told the story of a group of stage actors and playwrights who created a Broadway musical. The interesting thing about smash was the actress who were playing the actors in the show were actual theater actors themselves. So now there is a Broadway musical based on a TV show about a group of people making a Broadway musical. That’s about as meta as you can get.

I shared a story about this musical with Jessica. She responded telling me that her and her daughter were already planning to go to New York to see it in the next few weeks.

We exchanged a message or two afterwards; asking how each other was. Her answers were very short, one word “good“; Things to that effect. This isn’t the first time we’ve had such an exchange and quite frankly, I decided not to even attempt to get her to elaborate. If she wanted to talk to me, she would reach out. But as I said, I’m the one who broke up with her. While I do still miss her at times, I was immediately happier for having ended of the relationship.

That got kind of deep. But I guess that’s the proverbial rabbit hole that I need to go down sometimes. 

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