As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today
What is your love language? (acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch)
I have to give credit where credit is due. The first person who offer even introduced me to the entire house, inceptive “the five love languages“ was X2. She owned a copy of the book. I’ve read a few chapters of it, but admittedly, I’ve not read it from cover to cover. after hearing the five different categories, I just assumed that they were self-explanatory.
But in sitting down to begin writing this post yesterday, I found myself doing a little bit more research on them. I even attempted one of those “free“ love, language assessments. I don’t understand the “five love languages” nearly as much as I would like to. If I recall correctly, one of the online dating apps would actually ask their members about their preferred love language as part of their online dating profile. In other places, many people involuntarily mentioned their love language on their online dating apps. In any event, these are all assigned to me that maybe I should breakdown, buy the book, and give it. It’s due diligence. 
To be honest, I like a little bit of all five of the love, language languages; as I think we all do. But if I asked, which is my preferred love language, and many people do ask me that, it’s probably words of affirmation. For me, for so long it’s been all about the ability to have a conversation. Preferably an intelligent one. I don’t know if I would go as first, myself sapiosexual, but if I can’t have a deep meaningful conversation with a partner, that is a big, big red flag.
At the same time, I also know that words of affirmation are not enough for me. I do also need physical touch. I need quality time. all need to be able to practice, as well as receive examples of each of the five languages in our lives.
When I was younger, and let more experience in relationships, I think that I leaned more heavily into words of affirmation. As I got older and more experience, I started craving physical touch much more. However, as I find my age progressing still, I’m noticing that I’m almost shifting back into Words of affirmation. I think that I’m in the midst of something of a transition in my life. I am getting older. While it’s not that I no longer crave physical touch, but I’m at a point in my life where it’s not as important to me as it once was.
As I think the love languages might say about me personally, I think it’s equally interesting as to assess what they say about men, women, and dating collectively. As a man, the ones I probably either get the least or am given the least effectively are acts of service and gifts. Let’s face it: men generally expected to the providers in relationships. To that end, I don’t know if I’ve ever been in a relationship with a woman who didn’t want, expect, or need act of service. On the flipside of that, I think that most women have either been told, or believe, that’s the love language they need to provide the least are acts of service and given gifts.
The online quiz I got to take naturally got me taking a greater mental deep dive at the subject. I don’t know that I’ve ever been in a relationship where someone performed as many as of service for me as I was expected to perform for them. That’s not meant to say that the women in my life haven’t tried. I just think that the acts of service I’ve performed for them have been either more practical or appreciated by them than any anyone has ever performed for me. Again, maybe this is a part of the gender dynamics.
When I started responding to this prompt yesterday, I have to admit I was struggling. I’ve heard so much about the five love languages that I was immediately bored. Understanding you preferred love languages gives you a deeper understanding of ourselves. It’s as if the more research I try to do on the subject, the deeper I got into it. OK, I’ll probably go ahead and order the book.
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