Mama Bear- level compromise in relationships

As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today

In relationships, what sorts of differences could be beneficial, and what sorts of differences could be a challenge?

About a week or so back, I was writing about how people in relationships need to complement each another; rather than be at odds with each other.

In that regard, I think that’s some differences between two people in a relationship are actually very healthy. For instance, I am “the picky eater from family of bland eaters“. I think that I would benefit from being with somebody who is a little bit more of a diverse eater and can introduce me to different foods.

One thing I’ve noticed about myself, for instance, is that I’m pretty good at striking up conversations. Some people call it small talk, some people call it icebreakers. But I’m generally pretty good at reading a situation and finding a way to get somebody to open up and start talking. Also, when approaching a stranger, this comes in very handy; as you can tell who really wants to talk to you.

On the other hand, for me personally, dating someone with different political views on mine is a red flag at best and a dealbreaker at worst. I wish it wasn’t like this. I wish that American politics were just both parties joking around with each other about how they want to fix things. But personally ideology has become so intertwined with political views, and that divide is only growing more every day.

Crossing the aisle

Believe it or not, I have seated more than one woman who has identified herself as a republican. To make matters even more crazy, I have dated a few women who have identified themselves as Trump supporters. Needless to say, it didn’t last long. In those instances, I don’t think of it as “she broke up with me“ or “I broke up with her“ we just mutually parted ways and I’ve never looked back.

To be honest, I don’t know what I was thinking at the time. I certainly wasn’t acting as the person dating the proverbial bad boy; thinking that i would be the one to reform their ways. I think I just wanted to prove to myself that I could interact or even be in a relationship with someone who was from “the other side of the aisle”. I never had any desire or intention to change somebody’s political views. If anything, I just wanted them to see where I was coming from.

Like so many other things in life, relationships are about balance. Relationships need to be to achieve mama bear- levels of moderation: not too hot. Not too cold. Just right.

I don’t believe that opposites attract. I know a lot of people look at being attracted to somebody who is completely the opposite of them as a challenge, the novelty of that wears off. Two people have to have some common ground. At the same time, it’s important that you don’t have too many things in common with your partner as that would eventually become boring too. Also, you don’t wanna have too much in common with a romantic partner, and that you end up becoming competition for one another.

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