Before I start, I would like to wish all of the veterans here in the United States a happy Veterans Day. Thank you for your service! And to our allies around the world, Happy Armistice Day!
This Mens’s Health article is about 5 years old, and I’ve come across it a few times. It talks about the difference between live, and a concept called limerence – which is an obsessive level of infatuation.
Essentially limerence is when you have built up an idealized version of someone in your mind; and have fallen in love with that idealized version of a partner.
I bring up this article today because I too am guilty of limerence. I think it definitely happened more with X2 than with X1 – but it happened with both of them to a degree.
Over the last few years, I’ve labeled this phenomenon as a few different things: getting swept up in the honeymoon phase, falling in love with the idea of falling in love; or even falling in love with the relationship itself. Any way you slice it, it’s my marriage and my LTR were sprinkled with at least a bit of limerence.
But that’s one of the things I’m enjoying about my relationship with Veronica. It’s it, BY FAR, the slowest I’ve ever moved in any elation ship I’ve been in. We kept things very casual for so long, that I feel like we just skipped right over the whole “intense honeymoon” phase. I think we’re a better couple for it.
But it’s odd. We don’t talk a lot about “where we stand” or anything. Of anything, I’ve brought that up more than she has, and she’s kind of laughed it off. I don’t know how to feel about that. I think it’s one of those nervous laughs, because it’s not like she doesn’t want to see me.
Monday was her birthday. I’ve got her flowers and we went out to dinner. Over the weekend, I took her to see Back to the Future: The Musical, but I didn’t really say that that was her birthday present. So we’ll see how this goes.
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