The Magnitude of “Forever”

As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today

What is something about being an adult that nobody prepared you for?

There are plenty of things I wasn’t ready for, but if I have to narrow it down to one, it’s the sheer, unyielding weight of being responsible for other human beings.

The “Instruction Book” Cliché

It’s a cliché to say “kids don’t come with an instruction book,” but it’s the truth. We’re all just learning on the fly, putting on our “Teacher Armor” to hide the fact that we’re making it up as we go. But I think we struggle to appreciate the true magnitude of the phrase “for the rest of your life.”

I see this often in the dating world. I remember an old flame—”Customer Service”—who got angry when I had to cancel plans to pick up my son. She asked if I was just “doing a favor” for my ex. She didn’t get it. It wasn’t a favor; it was a father showing up. Compare that to someone like Veronica, who navigates life with a son on the spectrum. She understands that there is no “off” switch.

The 18-Year Illusion

Some people look at 18 as a magic cutoff where you stop being a parent. They’re wrong.

A few weeks ago, I got a call that my oldest had a seizure at college. I didn’t ask my principal for permission to leave; I informed her I was going. Within an hour, I was on the road to Madison. That’s what it means to be a parent. It’s the same way my father showed up in Charleston a day early with my brother to help me pack up during my divorce.

Nobody prepares you for the quiet reality of putting yourself last—whether it’s wearing worn-out work pants because the kids need something first, or dropping your entire life to drive across state lines at a moment’s notice.

Guinan once told Wesley Crusher that there are times you have to be selfish to survive. I’m learning that balance in this 1,000-Day Rebuild. But at the end of the day, I just want to be the kind of father to my sons that the “old man” was for me. As long as I’m drawing breath, the armor stays on—it just changes shape.

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