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2026 Refresh: The Perspective Shift

Re-reading this post from March 2013 is a trip. At the time, I was just 100 days into a journey I’m still walking today, and I was clearly swept up in the Audacity of Potential. I called her “The Auteur” because I thought we were about to co-author a masterpiece.

Looking back, I see a man who was willing to drive 90 minutes across Michigan just for a “feeling.” Back then, I was looking for a “Lightning in a Bottle” connection to fix the narrative; today, I have the Bugs and Boundaries to know that I am the sole architect of my own sanctuary.

I’m sharing this today as an honest mile-marker. The faces in the story change, but the work of rebuilding remains. It’s a reminder that even when we misread the room, moving slowly is still moving forward.

They say that if something seems too good to be true, then it probably IS too good to be true. So far, I have no indication of that from a woman I’ve been talking to from match.com that I will refer to as “the auteur” – for reasons that will become clear soon enough.

I think i saw her before she saw me.  She has this great picture on her profile page where she’s wearing glasses.  For a better appreciation of my – and most guys’ – glasses fixation, please refer to  my fellow blogger Smooth Reentry’s take on eyeglasses.

We have been e-mailing back and forth for the last few days, and traded phone numbers last night.  I told her i’d call her today (Monday actually).  Normally I’d say I was moving way too fast, but i just have a feeling.

Maybe i should wait till i meet her face-to-face before getting too gaga over her. Before my date with The Boss on Saturday night, we did not speak on the phone  – we only texted and e-mailed.

We made a few calls back and forth tonight; combined we spoke for well over 4 hours. I would not have believed it was that long if i didn’t see it for myself.

We made plans to get together this Saturday evening.  The only drawback I see to The Auteur so far is that we live so far from each other.  It would, literally, take me less time to driver to the next state than it would to get to her place.  The cool thing is that we both agreed to meet each other roughly half-way between her place and mine.  To make things even better, she suggested we at least get some dinner – spend a little more time together to make it worth both of our while.  I certainly can’t complain about that!

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