A lover and a fighter

As WordPress continues to recycle old prompts, I pulled another prompt from The Coffee Monsterz Co to respond to today

How do you typically respond to a threat? (fight, flight, freeze, flop, friend)

For much of my life, I’ve been very non-confrontational. I was like to see all sides of a situation, and I’m usually the guy who is trying to help people find common ground. Almost like I’m the mediator of sorts. Because of that, I think people are genuinely shot when I do get angry or when I do stand my proverbial ground.

I like to think that that has changed over the last few years. These days, I like to think of myself as someone who does not respond well to a threat. I don’t like to go looking for trouble, but if someone tries to start something with me, I won’t back down.

Having said all that, I definitely do use my “good natured, easy-going” personality to my advantage. People, as I mentioned earlier, do not expect trouble from me. They don’t expect much resistance from me. Maybe it sounds shady, but I like to take advantage of that. I like to have that element of surprise on people when it comes down to a genuine confrontation.

I remember, early on in my relationship with X2, I felt one time as if she was deliberately trying to start an argument with me. I distinctly remember saying to her “this feels like you’re trying to start a fight with me. And while I don’t want to have an argument, I’m not going to back down from one either.” I think in that moment, I really figured it out. I don’t like trouble, but I’m also not gonna let people roll over me, or people that I care about.

I think this all comes back to the idea that I’ve written about on a few occasions prior – the philosophy that voice actor Peter Cullen summed up in the phrase “strong enough to be gentle“. I refuse to sit here, thump my chest and tell the world how tough I am because, frankly, that’s not what tough people do. similarly, I’ve heard several martial arts talk about the idea that one trains to fight – they learn how to fight – so that they don’t have to fight. I know it sounds somewhat paradoxical, but it is true.

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refilwecharitym

February 7, 2025

Me too but i let to stop fighting my battles i just walk away some people might force you to end doing the unthinkable and find yourself in trouble. I told myself if you think your threats are legit no amount of weapon shall prosper God is For me

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