Costumes, Connors, and Cutting Through the Holiday Bullshit
Special thanks once again to rojie for today’s prompt. if you haven’t done so already, definitely check out her blog justrojie.com.
What do you think will be the most popular Halloween costume this year? And why?
I’ll tell you what: when it comes down to it, Halloween is probably my favorite “holiday” of the year.
Christmas gets all the press, but Christmas is intense. It’s heavy. It’s emotional. You have to navigate family dynamics, manage expectations, and shoulder the sheer anxiety that surrounds gift-giving. It feels like a high-stakes performance where everyone is getting graded on how well they pull off the “magic.”
Halloween, on the other hand? Halloween is just straight-up, unadulterated fun.
You put on a costume, and you get candy. That’s the whole contract.
The Disguise and the Hall Pass
I know there are people on both extremes—the folks who act like it’s a personal insult to put on a costume, and the hyper-dedicated group who spend eight months and a small fortune crafting screen-accurate cosplay armor. But for most of us, it’s just a pass. Superheroes never go out of style. You’ve got the timeless tributes—like a Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers couple’s costume, which would be an incredible honor to Dolly this year. And, of course, you’ve got the classic “slutty [insert object here]” phenomenon that How I Met Your Mother immortalized with the Slutty Pumpkin.
Why does no one talk about that more? Because Halloween is the ultimate cultural hall pass. It’s a chance to step out of your own skin, put on a disguise, and be someone else for a night without explanation.
The Disguise and the Hall Pass
Going off on a bit of a tangent here, but I single-handedly credit—and blame—the 1990s TV series Roseanne for the total explosion of Halloween decorations over the last 35 years.
If you watched the show, you know the annual Halloween episode was a sacred tradition. The running gag was that the Conners were the extreme Halloween family on the block. They didn’t have money, but they had pride, theatricality, and a drawer full of fake organs. I’ll make the case to anyone who will listen that Halloween in the United States was never the same after Roseanne premiered. They normalized turning your suburban lawn into a full-blown haunted house and taking practical jokes to an art form. We went from a carved pumpkin on the porch to 12-foot skeletons in the driveway because Dan and Roseanne Conner set the bar.
Holiday Pressure vs. Real-Life Peace
Comparing that kind of low-stakes, neighborhood fun to Christmas is night and day. Especially for a hyper-anxious guy like me.
Right now, I’m looking at the prospect of my first Christmas with Sierra, and I’ve been overthinking what to get her. But the other day, she mentioned setting a strict cap—something like $100 max for each other.
I can’t tell you how much I love that. Putting clear boundaries on it takes all the guesswork and financial dread off the table. Look, the truth is Sierra probably makes twice as much as I do—hell, maybe three times as much, for all I know. But she has never once thrown that in my face.
You see all these TikTok videos and social media memes lately showing the nightmare side of modern dating. Women bringing three friends along for a free steak dinner expecting the guy to pay, or that viral video of a guy who went to pick up his date only to find her getting $350 hair extensions put in—expecting him to foot the bill or she wouldn’t go out with him.
Sierra is so far removed from that bullshit. She spends money on nice stuff because she has it, but she knows what I do for a living, she knows my life, and there are zero status games. She just gets it.
Taking Off the Mask
Which brings me back to why Halloween hits so different.
Life gives us enough fake performance to deal with every day—navigating expectations, social media noise, and the pressure to measure up. Christmas can amplify all of that if you let it. But Halloween reminds us that taking off the serious suit, putting on a mask, keeping things grounded, and enjoying the simple fun of the night is really what it’s all about.
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