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What’s a huge mistake you’ve made?
We spend an awful lot of time hunting for our biggest mistakes in the rearview mirror. We look at the wrong turns, the failed relationships, and the moments where things flatlined, trying to figure out where we went off course.
Sometimes, though, the biggest mistake isn’t a failure of action. Sometimes, it’s a failure of imagination. It’s the habit of severely underestimating your own presence and refusing to see the person standing right in front of you.
I’ve always considered myself a pretty humble guy. Or at least, I thought that’s what I was being. But looking back over the last few years of rebuilding my life—surpassing milestones, managing a classroom of high schoolers, putting in the work at the gym, and navigating the day-to-day—I’m starting to realize that true humility isn’t about shrinking yourself or pretending you don’t take up space. Sometimes, “humility” is just a polite word for old-school self-doubt.
We live entirely inside our own heads. We remember every awkward phase, every hurdle we’re still quietly trying to clear, and every day we just feel like we’re winging it. Because of that internal bias, we are completely blind to how the world actually experiences us.
Take the gym, for instance. I’m certainly not the biggest guy in the room, and I’m definitely not trying to play some alpha-dog role. But put my headphones on, lock into my routine, and I have a singular focus. Apparently, people notice that intensity—not because I’m trying to intimidate anyone, but because I’m fully locked into my own lane.
Or take my high school kids. They know I’m easygoing, and they know I’m pretty cool in general. But they also know that when a boundary gets drawn, it carries real weight. I don’t need to rule with an iron fist to command a room; the authority is just there, earned over years of showing up. It is my “strong enough to be gentle” mantra in action. I can be myself. I can be funny and lighthearted, but the kids have seen and heard me enough to know that when the line has been crossed, I mean business.
And then there’s the quiet shock of realizing how others see you when you aren’t expecting it. Sierra mentioned recently that she was actually a bit nervous on our early dates. I was honestly dumbfounded. Nervous? Around me? I feel like I couldn’t scare a shell-shocked puppy. Who the hell am I to be nervous about?
Because in my own mind, I’m just me—just a guy trying to piece things together day by day. I forget that other people don’t see the inner monologue of doubt; they see someone grounded, present, and capable. They see someone whose company actually matters.
We spend so much time waiting to feel like we’ve finally “arrived” at a version of ourselves that deserves confidence. But the truth is, the growth has already happened. The foundation is already built.
The mirror just needs to catch up to the reflection.
Rebuilding a life takes grit, consistency, and a lot of ‘Option C’ thinking. Having crossed the 1,000-day milestone, I’m now charting the territory beyond. The mission remains the same: No glitz. Just the work. New to the blog? Start your journey here to see the blueprint and the ‘Tricorder’ perspective behind the rebuild.
Today’s post is inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt. While I’ve taken the topic in my own direction for the Road beyond 1,000 Days, you can find more responses to today’s prompt HERE.
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