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Note from Rob (2026): Every now and then, an entry from the early days resurfaces. This post was originally published on November 4, 2012—capturing the exact moment the journey began to take shape. The language, aliases, and raw emotion are preserved below exactly as they were written for posterity.

I did it.

I sent out THE PAPERS on Friday afternoon following a brief conversation the STBX and I had while I was at bowling on Thursday. She asked me where the separation agreement was and then tried to lecture me on legal proceedings. I even told her that my lawyer informed me that she hadn’t filed anything yet.

To me, it’s not really a big deal which one of us files papers and gets this divorce thing started. It is a big deal to her, or at least, it was. “I am the one who was wronged” she said to me before I moved out.

It felt very empowering to go to the post office and mail off those papers. It’s probably the first time I’ve felt as if i’m in control of this whole situation. And that is a very nice place to be for a change.

I am expecting some kind of fallout from this. It’s inevitable. Actually, the big surprise would be if there was no backlash.

Oh and incidentally, Friday was November 2. Exactly seventeen years to the day that the STBX and I met…

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